Hold onto Him
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Hold onto Him was birthed after a deliberate decision to mourn the disappointments that are part and parcel or journeying with illness. It is relevant to any category of loss, not necessarily illness. It explores how every disappointment or loss can end with a victory lap and how to find a way to make sense of pain and loss. My prayer is that our pain would bear fruit and lessen the suffering of others.
My husband’s depression was our secret. We often struggled to find ways to deal with the loss of connection that was brought about by the apathy of depression. We sought counselling, individually and as a couple, and continue it to this day as a support system.
To protect our children against the pain of the stigma associated with depression, we did not talk about it as a family. During a season of our lives there were three generations facing depression under one roof: grandmother, father and daughter.
This avalanche of stress and pain with its complementary coping strategies resulted in a book about our journey with depression that was published in September 2018. At our Christmas meal that year, we had an open family discussion about the impact depression had on our lives. While eating roast lamb, potatoes and pumpkin tart, we could also reflect on our victories to be a happy household amid the challenges. The book shares a toolbox of strategies that we developed over the years. The book was followed by a series of blogs that aim to encourage others to find their voice during their journey with loss.
From there opportunities to share hope in many settings followed, including the truly remarkable and sensible process to restoration offered by Emotional Logic.