Hold onto Him
Energy in MOTION to embrace change
I am a social worker and my husband is a minister of religion. When we got married we were ready for the usual end to the fairy tale: “and they lived happily ever after”. We promised to support each other in sickness and in health, until death do us part. Nothing prepared us for the “in sickness” to last for 35 years of the 37 years that we are now married.
While I hold a qualification in social work from the University of Stellenbosch (1982), and have had training in areas such as transactional analysis, selfdevelopment, marriage counselling and enrichment, trauma counselling, and emotional logic, my most significant training comes from deeply sharing in my husband’s walk with this disease, as well as that of his mother and our eldest daughter.
Through this journey, my work as a social worker in two psychiatric hospitals and two prisons, and my husband’s NGO, HospiVision, which now renders pastoral care and counselling to patients, their families and staff at 13 government hospitals, I have been immersed in the pain as well as the hope, the effects of sickness as well as ways to conquer these, and the loss – of connection, purpose, joy – as well as the power of reconnection, vision and bliss amid the storms.
My people engagement skills were honed while working in the multi-level marketing and property investment fields.
The desire to share the many lessons I have learnt culminated in a book and opened the door for many opportunities to leave people better than I found them, something for which I am eternally grateful.
Any illness or trauma provides a mirror that reflects where we need to adjust our lifestyle or coping mechanisms. Unfortunately, we have become masters at ignoring our emotions and minimising our losses – the death of a dream can be as traumatic as the death of a person. Sometimes our body or soul must yell at us before we stop to listen.
I help others to learn to listen, find their voice, adjust and prepare for a life of joy